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  1. Michael

    Hi Mark,

    I am 22 and I have a bad case of social anxiety. I’m not sure if my social anxiety is either a result

    or the same as fear of rejection. I don’t put women or anyone on a pedestal and I don’t think of

    them as being better than I am. I love my life and who I am, and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.

    I exercise and meditate everyday, I have excelled at my job, college, and in brazilian jiu jitsu. I

    don’t believe in perfection, and for the most part I have a good balance in my life. However, I

    usually struggle greatly when interacting with men and women. Some days I am relaxed and

    carefree, but many days I am anxious before, during and after interacting with people. It doesn’t

    matter if I’m meeting someone for the first time, or if I have known them for years. When I’m at

    my worst, I think to myself “was that the right thing to say, did I overdo it, does he/she hate me

    now, was that stupid, what went wrong, what do I say next, what am I suppose to talk about the

    next time I see this person?” I usually have these thoughts for 5-10 min. when a conversation is

    over with. Because of this illness I have, I don’t have many friends, it’s hard for me to make and

    keep friends, and I have never had a girlfriend. Whenever I came close to having a girlfriend, I

    always ran away. I have asked a total of four women out in my life. The first one led me on for

    about three months until I stopped pursuing her and realized how nasty she was. The second

    one I asked out the following year, and she turned me down. I wasn’t upset, I felt great that I

    made an attempt and didn’t feel sorry for myself like some guys do. The third one I got along with

    really well and she gave me her number. When she gave me her number, I became scared of

    entering a relationship and didn’t pursue her. I only called her once after a month of getting her

    number and I left a message saying I was sorry I took so long and that I have been busy. I saw

    her a few weeks later and she was irritated at me for not calling her. She told me she called me the next day

    after I called her. I didn’t recall her calling me and told her I didn’t receive a message, which I actually didn’t.

    We had a brief and awkward conversation and I felt bad about leading her on because I have been there before

    and never had any intentions of doing that to any woman. This was a hard experience for me. After this I

    wanted to make an attempt to eliminate my insecurities by approaching different women without going for a

    date or phone number. I approached at least one different woman each day for twenty one days last year. I

    started off by just smiling and saying hi, then I would give women a compliment, and then I

    started making conversations. I talked to both attractive and unattractive women throughout my

    twenty one days. Some conversations were good, and others were awkward. I felt great

    throughout my approaches because I was facing my fear. I thought I was cured when my twenty

    one days were over with. Once that ended, I asked a woman out who was the fourth one total

    after asking the other three women out before I made my approaches. She turned me down

    because she had a boyfriend. I didn’t take it personal and felt great about continuing to push

    myself. Even though there have been women who have taken some interest in me throughout

    the past year, I haven’t asked another woman out since the fourth one. All the improvement that I

    thought I got from making so many approaches hasn’t lasted me. Even the moments I do feel

    confident, I still don’t go after the women I’m interested in and I prefer not to socialize with too

    many people in general. I don’t have a desire to be extremely popular, sociable, or even the

    ultimate ladies man. I just want to overcome all of my social insecurities, have a few good friends

    in my life who I trust and care about and vice versa, and I want to be able to go after any woman

    I’m interested in without overthinking everything. As time goes on, I want to have a few good

    relationships with women who have high quality without making it a big deal. My theory is that all of my social

    anxiety is a result from fear of rejection. I have been thinking about a new goal in

    which I plan on making an attempt to ask around ten women out to further decrease my

    insecurity and hopefully experience what it’s like to have a girlfriend. Even though I have a good

    attitude and hope that I will be cured, my anxiety is really strong and usually shadows over my

    positive thinking. There are a few other topics I would like to talk to you about another time if that

    is okay with you. But for now, please give me feedback on my stories I have shared with you.

    Thank you for your time and consideration.

    1. Markeyus F Post author

      Hello Mike thanks for visiting my page first off and don’t forget to subscribe to both my personal and magazine site. I release articles that could be very helpful to you. Okay let’s get started. I’m going to analyze and break down your concerns and I’m sure we will get to a positive resolution.” I love my life and who I am, and I wouldn’t trade that for anything. I exercise and meditate everyday, I have excelled at my job, college, and in brazilian jiu jitsu. Idon’t believe in perfection, and for the most part I have a good balance in my life. Okay Mike that’s great and I’m glad to see that you are doing something in life. Its highly important for you to have an identity and your own personal power. Never stop pursuing dreams and goals. Also, you seem like you have a lot of love for yourself which is an advantage if you want to have a future relationship because we must first love ourselves before we can share love with anybody else. However, I usually struggle greatly when interacting with men and women. Some days I am relaxed and carefree, but many days I am anxious before, during and after interacting with people. It doesn’t matter if I’m meeting someone for the first time, or if I have known them for years. When I’m at my worst, I think to myself “was that the right thing to say, did I overdo it, does he/she hate me now, was that stupid, what went wrong, what do I say next, what am I suppose to talk about the next time I see this person?” I usually have these thoughts for 5-10 min Okay Mike first of all, I don’t think a woman is your biggest problem. Your biggest problem is yourself. You and only you are destroying your chances with people in general. Mike we all get nervous when talking to different people from time to time. I honestly believe that you are putting way to much pressure on yourself. Usually problems interacting with people start early in life whether it’s your parents, friends, or negative people you have made you feel this way. It ultimately means that you have “Fear of Man”. Mike there is no reason to over analyze a conversation that you have with someone because you are no by means perfect so stop trying to live up to a worthless expectation; It’s unreachable and will never be achieved. You need to read my book and focus on the chapter “Be cool under pressure.” Also Mike you will never truly be able to define yourself until you stop caring what other think, say, or feel about you. So be cool when talking and interacting with people because most of the time they are not thinking too much into you. Whenever I came close to having a girlfriend, I always ran away. I have asked a total of four women out in my life. It sounds like you are running away from women because you have not overcame your fears. Just like I said earlier I don’t think women is your biggest problem, and I think once you master yourself you will do just fine. Mike never run from women and never run from your social anxieties again. You have to attack until its no longer a problem. Mike for there to be peace in your mind there first have to be war. Your 21 days of talking to people was a good start, but why did you stop; it should have continued. It takes 21 days to break a habit so that’s why i’m assuming you did it. But why didn’t you embrace this new found part of you. The third one I got along with really well and she gave me her number. When she gave me her number, I became scared of entering a relationship and didn’t pursue her. I only called her once after a month of getting her number and I left a message saying I was sorry I took so long and that I have been busy. I saw her a few weeks later and she was irritated at me for not calling her. Of course she didn’t call you back because you took too long in responding to her. Mike why are you afraid to enter into a relationship? Where did this fear come from? Because it has nothing to do with your social anxiety. It seems like despite your problem, this woman liked you and was ready to pursue something more, but you sabotage it because of irrational reasons.

      “IMPROVEMENTS”

      Okay Mike it’s time to create a new paradigm in your life in other words it’s time to change your way of thinking. ” As a Man thinketh then so is he”, never forget that. It sounds like you doubt and second guess yourself in life a lot. Mike you have to understand that doubt breeds fear into your life. I rather you be afraid then fearful because being afraid is only temporally but being fearful has a much longer connotation. The reason why you have social aniexty is because you don’t have many friends to practice on, and you may have missed that much needed practice earlier in life. You need to be around more male friends right now more than anything. So got out to the gym and meet new people or ask people at your job would that like to go hank out. Mike interaction is the key and we are all social creatures. That once antisocial kid that sat in the back of the class in school will have a much harder time in life if he doesn’t learn how to interactive with others properly. Join groups and clubs and do things that’s outside your comfort zone. You will have to recreate yourself and stay with what you have change or you will quickly go back to the old Mike which has happened a few times already because you failed to embrace and keep your new found self. Mike I’m not getting on you, but you have to be confident and stay confident even when a negative thought comes to your head. Mike we all fear, but it’s the people who get’s things done even when fear is in their way, that will prosper at everything in life. Mike that’s called courage.

      Mike this is the first Message which was mainly about “YOU” The next message I send will strictly be about women.

  2. Michael

    Hi Mark,

    Thank you for the reply you sent me. I agree with everything you said. Despite my social

    anxiety, I have made some improvement in the last few months when interacting with other male

    employees at my job and at college. However, both this year and previous years has always

    been hard for me to make friends. The rare times where my social anxiety or fear of rejection

    doesn’t hold me back from trying to make friends, it usually goes well at first. But it seems that I

    am the only one who always has to put in the effort to keep a friendship going. Several men have

    talked to me about hanging out and have given me their phone number and have asked me for

    mine. After exchanging phone numbers and email addresses with other guys, I mostly never get

    called to hang out and sometimes I don’t get responded to at all after I make the call. There have

    been different people who have told me to give them a call and to send them a message, but I’m

    the one who has to put in all of the work. I am use to it and I don’t get upset over it, but I don’t

    understand it and would like to figure out why this always happens.

    There is one specific person who is older than me who I have been close with for the past four

    years. We have done a lot together, and I have shared a lot about myself with him and vice

    versa. He is someone I thought I could trust and be friends with forever. After a few times of

    hanging out with him, he wanted me to meet some of his other friends even though I was

    hesitant at first because of my anxiety. However, I did get along with his friends and I was later

    told that they asked about me a lot. My friend told me how I should meet more of his friends and

    we should all go out for a drink and do other things together. So after everything was going well,

    I wasn’t prepared or expected for what came next.

    A few nights down the road, it was just me and my friend hanging out at his house. He told me

    how he had some big house party a few nights previous and that a whole combination of his

    friends were there and how they all had a great time. I was stunned hearing that he had a big

    party and that I wasn’t invited. I didn’t have the courage to confront him that night, and I

    repressed this for a few months until I spoke up to him earlier this year. I calmly asked him

    why I wasn’t invited to his party and if he considered me an equal to his other friends. He

    told me he considered me an equal to his other friends and that I wasn’t invited because his

    friendship with me is different than his other friends. He then told me that even though we get

    along so well, there’s a huge age gap between us and he that he’s on a different experience level

    of life than I am. I countered back at him and told him that I have experienced things that he

    hasn’t, and that everyone has different experiences regardless of their age. I was so pissed off

    at this asshole, it was like I was talking to an entirely different person. I even helped him put in

    his garden when we first started hanging out. I was highly considering on parting ways with him

    during our talk, but I instead asked him if he still wanted to keep seeing each other. He said he

    did want to keep hanging out.

    I don’t understand why he ever wanted to be my friend and to stay in touch after confirming that

    he’s bothered by the age difference between us. I also don’t understand why he even wanted to

    introduce me to his other friends in the first place and why he talked about me meeting and

    hanging out with more of his friends when he considers me different from them. Even though we

    still stay in touch, I don’t consider him much of a friend anymore and don’t plan on including him

    into the coolest parts of my life down the road. Having him in my life has been a very

    painful experience, but I suppose it’s been necessary for my continued growth. Please let me know your

    thoughts on everything I have written here today. Thank you.

  3. dalely

    Hi Mark,
    My name is Dale I am 13 and I need some answers. I woke up at 6:00 then went on a five hour drive then another 3 hour drive one day. And the next day I woke up at 6:30 then went on another 2 then 4 hour drive home. That night I had a dream where I could lift up my arms and legs but not my head. When I woke up I was scared and had to go sleep with my brother. I have been scared since then. I am scared that there might be another spirit in me other than myself trying to get me when I’m Down…

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